Alateen and Al-Anon 20 Questions on Alcoholism - Part 3
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Has Your Life Been Affected and Damaged by Someone Else's Alcohol Drinking? Alcoholism - Alateen and Al-Anon in Kelowna
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Alateen is for young people and teenagers whose lives have been affected and impacted by another person’s alcohol drinking. Sometimes the active drinking has stopped, or even the active drinker might not live with you anymore. Even although the alcohol may be gone, or the alcoholic gone or recovering and recuperating in Alcoholics Anonymous, you are still affected. A lot of us have received help and assistance from Alateen or Al-Anon.
The following twenty questions are to help you decide whether or otherwise Alateen or Al-Anon is for you personally.
- Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel?
- Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don’t care?
- Do you feel neglected, uncared for, or unloved?
- Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking or what’s happening in your home?
- Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there?
- Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home?
- Has someone’s drinking upset you?
- Are mealtimes, birthdays, and holidays spoiled because of drinking or others’ reactions to the drinking?
- Are you afraid to speak up for fear the drinking or fighting will start again?
- Do you think the drinker’s behavior is caused by you, other members of your family, friends, or rotten breaks in life?
- Do you make threats such as, “If you don’t stop drinking and fighting, I’ll run away?”
- Do you make promises about behavior, such as “I’ll get better grades,” or “keep my room clean,” or “do anything you want,” in exchange for a promise that the drinking and fighting will stop?
- Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, she or he would stop drinking?
- Do you ever threaten or actually hurt yourself to scare the drinker into saying, “I’m sorry,” or “I love you”?
- Do you or your family have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
- Are you scared to ride in a car with the drinker?
- Have you considered calling the police because of abusive behavior?
- Do you avoid dating or having close friends because they may find out about the drinking or fighting?
- Do you think your problems would be solved if the drinking stopped?
- Do you ever treat teachers, friends, or teammates unfairly because you are angry about someone else’s drinking?
If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, Al-Anon or Alateen may help you. Contact Alateen in your community.
A Quiet Struggle: The Hidden Impact of Alcohol on Teens
Growing up is hard enough, but for some young people, the challenges go beyond the usual struggles of adolescence. When someone close to you, like a parent, sibling, or even a friend, drinks too much, it can feel like your world is turned upside down. The effects of that person’s drinking don’t just go away, even if they stop drinking or leave your life. The feelings, fears, and uncertainties remain, often leaving deep scars that can shape your view of yourself and the world.
Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel? This is a common thought among teens who have been affected by someone else’s drinking. The isolation can be overwhelming, as you might feel like your friends or classmates wouldn’t get it. You might hide your true feelings, pretending not to care, but inside, the hurt and confusion continue to grow.
Do you feel neglected, uncared for, or unloved? Living with or being close to someone who drinks too much can leave you feeling invisible. The drinker’s behavior might dominate the household, leaving little room for your needs or feelings. It’s easy to start believing that if they really loved you, they would stop drinking. But the reality is that their drinking has nothing to do with you—it's not your fault.
Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home? The fear of what your friends might see or hear if they come over can lead to more isolation. You might start avoiding social situations, staying away from home as much as possible, and missing out on the normal experiences that other teens enjoy.
Do you think your problems would be solved if the drinking stopped? It’s natural to hope that if the drinking ends, everything will get better. But often, the emotional and psychological impacts remain. You might find that even after the drinking stops, the scars it left behind still affect your life in significant ways.
If any of these questions resonate with you, know that you are not alone. Alateen is a place for young people like you—those who have been affected by someone else’s drinking. It’s a space where you can share your experiences with others who understand what you’re going through, where you can talk openly about your feelings without fear of judgment.
In Alateen, you’ll find that you’re not the only one who has felt neglected, unloved, or embarrassed because of someone else’s drinking. You’ll learn that your feelings are valid and that it’s okay to seek help. Alateen offers support and understanding, helping you to realize that you don’t have to carry the weight of someone else’s drinking on your own.
"Never doubt that a small group of dedicated people can change one’s life; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has." This quote captures the essence of Alateen. It’s about finding strength in a small group, knowing that you don’t have to face these challenges alone. Through Alateen, you can begin to heal, to rebuild your self-esteem, and to understand that you deserve a life free from the pain and confusion caused by someone else’s drinking.
If you’ve answered "Yes" to any of the questions above, consider reaching out to Alateen in your community. It could be the first step toward reclaiming your life and finding the support you need to move forward. You don’t have to face this alone—there’s a community ready to help you navigate the challenges and start healing.
Please call if you or a loved one needs help.
